Outpatient Drug Rehab: Methadone Detox Rehab

Question: My 16-year-old friend was sent to intensive outpatient drug rehab & foster care for 3 months & wont see me?

(Posted by: Chris on 2008-08-26 06:18:02)

He says his foster mom is very anal and wont let him hang out or call me since im in my late 20's. Plus, he started dating a 23- year- old 'recovering' crystal- meth addict he found from his group therapy. His foster mom allows that relationship but not ours. I've always been clean and sober. Anyway, my friend is bi- polar, ADD, anxiety, h.s. dropout, parents never married and split, and he now works at micky dees full time. I went to see him at his work and he basically acknowldged my presence for 5 seconds, but he wouldnt come out to talk to me. He went in the back hiding. My question is: do you think he will contact me when he "gets out of foster care " next month or is he blowing me off because he has a new bf or some other reason? He was only addicted to weed by the way.

Posted by: vert.grimble on 2008-08-26, 06:38:41

The thing is he has to get healthy before he should have any relationship. I know it hurts but if you like or love him he needs to spend 100% of his time working on himself. He needs learn to love himself first. As for the "woman in recovery " she might help him - Addicts helping addicts - but if she knows anything about recovery she should not be leading him into a relationship. 12 step programs (AA, NA, Ca) discourage sponsors of the opposite sex and suggest having at least 1 year clean before getting in to a love relation. Sometimes clean friends enable the addict. Try a Al-Anon meeting to better understand this and yourself. Then you can be his friend and help him. It is a baffling disease and it effects everyone around the addict. Best of luck - I'll say a little prayer for the two of you. ps pot is not as dangerous as a lot of the other addictions but it can still mess a person up big time - especially if there are other mental health issues.

Posted by: Reverend Cyn on 2008-08-26, 06:47:56

Well, what does a "late 20's " guy want to do with a 16 year old anyway? He's not of legal age yet. You should be careful so you are not accused of statutory rape. Try to find a partner you can relate too more. Give him his space for now. Let him get better.